Wednesday, March 20, 2013

I am hurt, Anton Dulce

News broke out about a 16-year-old University of the Philippines-Manila freshman who ended her life allegedly because she and her family were having financial troubles. For days following the death, leftist student activist groups from different schools all over the metropolis protested and blamed the tuition fee increase and “no late payment” policy of the university for her untimely demise.

The social media likewise became flooded with sentiments regarding the reason behind her death—many blamed the system, others blamed her parents, and a few even blamed the girl herself. I tried to just skip those kinds of posts as I go to Facebook and Twitter to take a break from the pressures of the daily grind.

I am very much acquainted with the “no late payment” policy for I, too, used to avail the institution’s student short-term loan program. I entered UP in 2007, the year they adapted TOFI, the 300 percent tuition fee increase. I remember crying on the eve of my 19th birthday because I had just received a rather threatening letter from the university saying that I cannot enroll the following semester if I do not settle my measly debt so reading the posts from angered students only brought back the all too familiar feeling of despair.

However, one rather lengthy note from a friend of a friend caught my eye. There, she explored the possible depression and “lack of will to live” that the young freshman suffered prior to her death. Of course, it was immediately panned by several and some even made a mockery of her “there are sad people who need hugs” line. But I liked it. It was a fresh and considerate take on the noticeably one-sided perspective on the hot topic. Upon reading the article, I instantly clicked the “Share” button.

Within a minute after it was posted on my timeline, Anton Dulce, National Vice-Chairman of Anakbayan, a “comprehensive, national democratic mass organization of the Filipino youth”, and UP College of Law freshman commented on it and I was not prepared for the onslaught he unleashed on me over the internet.
*"saang banda?" means "which part?" or "where exactly?"

At first, I tried to just brush him off but he threw daggers left and right for more than an hour—first about my blog being “stupid” then dropping a huge one with “Sad. But dont [sic] slash your wrists. With all that fat, you'd need a chainsaw to do the job. Don't forget to position your morbidly obese corpse near the compost heap, so at least you could contribute something to the environment.

It’s pretty insensitive of you to make fun of suicide. For crying out loud, a young girl’s suicide is the reason behind all the squabble! I call hypocrisy on this one.

Prior to this display of his true character, it had been months since we last talked but I do not recall us ever having fallouts so I was definitely taken aback by his slew of hurtful words.

I SHARED A NOTE. I shared a note, that’s it. Is that worth getting slapped across the face repeatedly with my own insecurities as your glove? I’m sorry, Mr. Dulce, but I believe that what you did was uncalled for.

I shared the note because it echoed my sentiments. I am fully aware of the issues that UP face and the consequent problems the students have to deal with but the freshman wasn’t some mechanical robot who just decided out of the blue to end her life because she had had it. No matter how short the leeway was, she still thought about it, cried about it and maybe, just maybe, a hug and listening ears were enough to convince her to do otherwise.

Anton, you are a leader—a leader of a group that respects and fights for the rights of the youth, of all things! And you are a law student. I think you should know better than to knowingly and willfully hurt a person.

I am not going to start a suicide prevention hotline or a fat people acceptance group because for 22 years, I have managed to build this wall around me for when insensitive jerks like you come around. Yes, I am hurt but it will pass. I am more concerned with the fact that a leader like you could even have the audacity to repeatedly poke and stab open wounds. You are supposed to usher in reform but you’re no better than the foul mouths you judge.

What were you trying to do, anyway? Convince me that you are right and that I am wrong? Well, insulting my person definitely worked. You are an excellent and powerful leader.

Perhaps too powerful for your own good. My dad always says, “Kapag sinabi mo sa pangit na pangit siya, parang pinatay mo na rin siya (You might as well have killed an ugly person if you say to them that they're ugly).” In this case, it is “fat loser ass.” Following your sentiments, if ever I do use that chainsaw to slit my wrists, it wouldn't be suicide. Much like the UPM student's case, it would be murder. Mr. Dulce, you should be ashamed of yourself.


P.S.
I have not deleted the post. I just changed the setting so that only I can view it.


UPDATE: You may read his public apology here.


85 comments:

  1. You are not the first, and I doubt you will be the last person Anton Dulce antagonizes. Hardly a surprising development from him

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  2. He's at it again! This is not strange behavior for him. Feel better soon! Some of the things he said were mean and unfounded.

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  3. Haay. And it's not Anton Dulce alone. I posted something on my wall about a suggestion that for students themselves to open a scholarship fund so they can help their fellow Iskolars who have less in life. A few minutes later, they started criticizing it, saying that "it distracted from the issue." Later on, they started mocking it. That, after a not-so-politicized friend liked the idea and even thought of saving money for the planned fund. (She's pushing through, and so do I. Haha.)

    Fighting them via Facebook will only make it worse, it seems.

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    1. Isn't it rational to think of a solution (in the meantime)while people are still trying to work up a long term one? Mabuti ng moving forward kaysa sa hindi gumagalaw. Yung nakatunganga lang hanggang hindi yung gusto nilang plan of action ang naisasagawa. Why not think of alternatives? - the not-so-politicized friend that just found another reason why she should not be affiliated to any "political" group

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    2. That is true. I don't think your suggestion "distracts" from the issue. There will still be problem solving on their part but your suggestion can offer a remedy for the time being. I think it's noble that you're taking this initiative.

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  4. Aww :( This is sad. Ang mean niya. Wala na kong ibang masabi kasi ang hurtful ng mga sinabi niya. *hugs*

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  5. What a very barbaric way to argue. EW. If he's gay, then he's the kind of gay that should be ashamed of being gay. GEEZUS. FOR SHAME ANTON DULCE. FOOOOOOOR SHAAAAAAME.

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    1. He's not being gay, he's not being a bitch. He's being his usual tired ass placard-carrying, slogan-shouting, flammable self.

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  6. I personally have my own issues with the note you shared, and did laugh at the "wake up, there are sad people who need hugs" line, but I respect your opinion. There is nothing wrong with you at all. The problem is with Anton Dulce. Thank you for sharing this, it was a brave move on your part. Hopefully, he will finally be reprimanded for his behavior.

    Also, you are not morbidly obese, at all. You are beautiful and smart (read through some of your blog posts). And about the Kristel Tejada case? You and I may see things differently, but I know you just mean well, as I do. People like Anton Dulce? I don't know, maybe not so much. Don't let this get you down. :)

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  7. While Dulce's remarks are indeed uncalled for, there was a lot of opportunity for you to end the thread. Dare I say that you became his accessory to ridicule you flagrantly. In fact, his initial comment is quite benign as he was only stating his opinion -- "another self-proclaimed psychologist." This statement, more importantly, did not explicitly specify the target, as it can be intended for Tantiangco, you, or for both of you. You were relentless in continuing the pointless conversation. You gave him the opportunity to belittle and insult you with reckless abandon. You retaliated by condemning his "opinion" as hateful by justifying your opinion as in line with some moral standards. His point was actually logical and valid when he said "saang banda?" since he was morally obliged to comment on the matter, equally as you are morally obliged to express "YES." as you share the article.

    I condemn the things he said to you, yet you should have known better.

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    1. Hello, I appreciate your comment. It may be easy for you to say those things because it wasn't you he insulted. I continued to talk to him with hopes that he would apologize. That's it. As you can probably conclude, I wasn't happy with the way he treated me and I thought maybe somewhere along the conversation, he would snap out of his insult streak and just apologize.

      I don't think I should be blamed for anything. I wasn't "asking" to be insulted.

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    2. I could not agree more. You should've known better, Johanna. And I personally think that by posting this, you are just being more defensive, even fishing for attention and totally breaking away from the main issue which is Kristel's death. Anyway, Anton Dulce already made his apology, so let's just hope he'll stay true to what he promised.

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    3. I don't think I can just let someone step on my person like that and just sit here and be quiet about it.

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    4. While the problem probably lay in the "pagpatol pa," heck, at least someone finally said something about this practice of trolling and attacking ideas contrary to their own. Johanna's case was exceptional as there was direct name-calling.

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    5. #VICTIMBLAMING Mahiya nga kayo.

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    6. Itong mga ito natuto lang ng kaunti kung makapagsalita na akala mo sila lang ang tama, pahina ni Ms. Johanna Perez ito kungbaga entablado niya ito, isipin ninyo, kung kayo ay nasa sariling teritoryo at may mambabastos sa inyo tatahimik na lamang ba kayo? Nadaanan ko lang 'to pero sa mga nabasa ko, ang lider o pasimuno ng isang organisasyon ay dapat may matalas na isip at mahinahong dila, hindi ang kabaligtaran, kung ganyan pala ang lider na yan hindi dapat yan sinusundan dahil ganyan yung mga nagpapasimuno ng panununog ng mga gamit sa eskwela at saka pagkasuspinde ng klase para lamang magwelga. Grabe ang panglalait sagad hanggang buto at para sabihin mo sa tao na magpakamatay ka na lang gamit ang "chainsaw?" grabe talaga! Hindi yata niya nauunawaan ang mga sinasabi niya at maaaring ganun din ang nasabi ng isang malapit dun sa nagpakamatay kaya niya nga nagawa ang kitilin ang sariling buhay. At kahit manghingi pa ng pasensiya iyang si pasimuno na yan, wala na, nasabi na niya na ang nasabi niya wala nang bawian. Ang sugat gumaling man may pilat bilang tanda ng pagkakamali at ang sakit malilimutan ngunit hindi ang mga sinambit ng mga labi.

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    7. Dahil nag- sorry na tapos na? Sana ganoon lang kadali bawiin ang mga sinabi niya.
      Saka wala bang karapatang maglabas ng sakit ng damdamin si Bb. Johanna Perez? Siya na nga ang biktima tapos siya pa ang sinisisi niyo.

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    8. Yes Mr Rocky Gabatin, "another self-proclaimed psychologist" was an opinion of his. But seriously, do you not sense the sacrcasm? You are lying if you say you don't. Ms Perez had to react since being sarcastic on a sensitive topic is uncalled for. She even JUST asked him not to post hateful comments and everything went haywire when he said, "I do detect butthurt in the spot you pointed out." By the way, I'm sure Anton Dulce wouldn't have said sorry if Ms Perez did not post this on her blog.

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  8. He is bitter and does not want anyone to be happy. unbecoming of a gentleman.

    This issue is really disturbing. This suicide case is an eye opener for us.

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  9. I actually felt bad for you and so I decided to write a message for him on Facebook but not hateful message, I won't do his way. Its sad, isn't it? That when you feel yourself knowledgeable or that when you fight fervently for something you feel right then you loose the "proper approach" and suddenly you're like those whom your fighting with -insensitive and care not to listen?

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  10. he had asked apology. here
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/NarinigKoSaUP/permalink/10151426135963369/

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  11. Hi Ms. Perez,

    Napadaan lang po ako sa blog mo dahil may nag-share sa FB. Sana po'y okay ka na. Kahit sinong nakakakilala sa pangalang Anton Dulce ay hindi na magugulat sa kanyang mga tinuran.

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  12. Just ignore him. He's not worth your time. Although if I were in your place, I should've cursed him big time. Kung makapanlait wagas e. Akala mo perpekto. Get well soon. :)

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  13. I think his first comment was for the writer and the article and not for you. Then, somewhere along the way both parties just got burned.

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    1. Yes, I know that. I defended the writer and her note because they both echo my sentiments.

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    2. I'm sorry, I know Ad Hominem attacks are wrong but I would be angry too at any instance of someone trying to censor what I would like to say about the piece. This was a note shared to the public and once it's out there, you can't control what people want to say or feel about it.

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    3. I wasn't trying to censor him at all. He was clearly trying to pick a fight since I affirmed the writer's note with the "YES." I have no problems with opinion just as long as they're not hateful. Those, the world can do without. He can post whatever he wants to say or feel about on his own timeline given that he doesn't step on the rights of other people.

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    4. He could have chose to disagree more gracefully than calling the author a "self-proclaimed psychologist," that was already rather insulting. He started it.

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  14. He made an apology.

    https://www.facebook.com/anton.dulce/posts/10200388839557057

    Hopefully he learns his lesson

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    1. I could believe his apology if this was the first time he ever did something like this, but it's not. I know from personal experience that he's pulled stuff like this before, and it probably won't end here

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  15. If this helps :)

    Sometimes being vocal and actually arguing does wonders. Kudos to you, Johanna. May Anton learn to shut up at times. :)

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  16. I'm sorry about that exchange, madam. You are a beautiful person. I hope you're okay now.

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  17. He said he's sorry, but still, what is done cannot be undone. Heck, kung public apology lang din ang solusyon sa lahat, baka magasgas na ang dila ng mga hunghang na yan sa kaka-sorry. Tapos ano? uulitin na naman? Tapos magso-sorry ulit? Nakakauyam ang ganiyang sistema. Nakakalungkot na may mga ganiyang tao sa sistema ng UP lalo na at mula pa siya sa Anakbayan. Kaya hindi na ko nagtataka kung bakit ang mismong mga nakakataas hindi nagbabago, kasi yung mga nasa baba, hindi pa rin natututunan ang "tamang" pagbabago.

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  18. To be honest, I think kaya lang naman siya nag-sorry si Dulce ay dahil naging viral na ito. He's only sorry because he has been exposed for what he really is.

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  19. omg who is this anton person? he is an ass!i hope he doesnt become my student next year.

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  20. To be honest, the likes of Anton shouldn't even be allowed on Social Media :)) Hahaha. Sorry, he's a former classmate and we all hate him except for those few who coincide with this thinking.

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  21. Simply bastos. Trying to justify ill arguments with being 'smart'. Distasteful. Pwe. His kind is really annoying

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  22. Ms. Perez, you came out the winner in this one. Continue being you and doing what you like best. And as for Mr. Dulce? Why bother with an obvious loser? He's lost his moral highground. From hereon, everyone will remember him for being a person who can't argue his case right and has to resort to being a bully and being mean.

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  23. maaannnnn, you fed him good. you dont feed trolls like that. that's how they get their fix.

    you bored outta your wits perhaps? you need a good damn lay lady :)

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  24. He's mad because a fellow student of him committed a suicide, yet he did not consider the hurtful words that he said. May he realize that many people commit suicide too because their insecurities are stressed and intensified by other insensitive people.

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  25. It only proves that you're right because losers will label you or perhaps throwing personal attacks when he loses an argument. Just do what you think is right. :D

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  26. Nakakalungkot ito. Kung ang imahe ng isang aktbista ay ganito, paano lalakas ang movement nyan? Kay ma'm Johanna Perez, bilang isang aktibista, ako'y nagpapaumanhin sa kawalang-hiyaan ng isang "comrade" (kahit di niya ako tinuturing na comrade). Yaan mo, maraming mga aktibista ang hindi ganito gumawi. We will do our best to fight for a humane world--a world without prejudice, kung saan people will the best in people. :)

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  27. People from that group are irrational thinkers, Miss. By now you should know that, and no heightening of intellectual consciousness can be achieved talking to those kinds of people. You should've just let him be, that way the number of people seeing or hearing about them, and how they destroyed the image of the Filipino activist, would be lessened. Then again, I commend you for standing up to bullies. You care too much, move along :)

    Cheers, mate!

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    1. I don't think standing up for myself is considered "caring too much." My hurt feelings will heal in time. No need to rush me.

      Anyway, the problem does not lie in the perception of the people who view and judge them. The problem lies within themselves. The depreciating image of the Filipino activist will only continue to go downhill if the likes of him stay at the top. Not talking about it will not make the problem go away. That would just create a bigger problem where the victims oppress themselves while the culprits run amok.

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  28. Venom-spewing is a poor substitute for intelligent discourse. His behavior was appalling and shockingly immature! I think it's safe to say he did more damage to his reputation than yours. He's an embarrassment to thinking people everywhere!

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  29. Wow! Sa ganito po nagsimula ang Mom and Dad ko! :)))

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  30. As I was checking if merong nag-comment sa post ko dito, I was shocked.

    Wow. You deleted my comment? Nasaan ang pagiging fair to both sides? Salamat ha, dahil this just shows how seeking-for-attention-and-pity kind of a person you are.

    Now, ang side ko na tuloy ay na kay Mr. Anton Dulce. You're too coward to face truth na kayong dalawa lang din ang dahilan ng away na yun, not him alone. I'm sorry but I don't pity you.

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    1. She's allowed to remove any post she wants because this is her space.

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    2. It wasn't a comment. You just posted his entire apology, which I do not think I can read just yet. I will read and reply to it soon.

      I don't need your attention, your pity and your hateful comment. Thank you.

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    3. Kahit nga space niya 'to, people reading this post should know what the other party has already done to end the issue. Clearly, she's playing victim.

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    4. There are plenty of other commenters here who posted the link to his apology and I did not delete those. People are free to go click those links just as they did to this post's link.

      I don't get how deleting your "comment" clearly proves that I'm playing victim.

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    5. Ang daming bobo at makitid ang utak dito. this is a personal blog. she has no responsibility to air out anyone else's view except her own. She WAS victimized by Anton Dulce and she's handling it in a very mature and empowered way.

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  31. What Anton did was definitely uncalled for. He's a student leader fighting for something yet the idea he's fighting for wasn't talked about at all. Puro insults lang ang nangyari sa thread na to. Where's the intellectual discussion? It's just sad.

    But I do get their sentiments. Lahat tayo if we just open our eyes, would clearly see that there's something wrong with the system. Hindi lang UP administration but the Philippine education system itself.

    Yes there's the issue of psychological issues Kristel might have been facing. And I agree na it's not just the forced LOA that forced her to take her life. It might have triggered it but it's definitely not the only cause. Lahat yan interconnected eh. You can't just look at one perspective and dismiss the other. We need to look at the bigger picture.

    As for the activist using Kristel's death for their own goals, lahat tayo guilty dyan eh. Think about it. Lahat tayo ginamit yung issue na yan para sa sarili natin. Be it to sympathize with Kristel's death, expose the flawed education system, or make people realize that psychological needs of people are being neglected in this country. Magkakaiba lang tayo ng pananaw sa buhay, respeto lang sa pananaw ng bawat isa.

    His actions were foul and uncalled for. However, you added fuel to the fire. He insulted you. You insulted him back. He started it, you could've ended it. You can't force an apology. Kung ininsulto kita sabay nag sorry ako, would that make you feel better? What would make you feel better? Yung makabawi ka? Then that doesn't make you any better than him. Offense is not given, it's taken.

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    1. Hello, it wasn't a contest to see who's tougher or who's classier. Yes, I would have put an end to the argument if he had apologized then and there. I wouldn't have posted it on my blog and risk my reputation being marred.

      I posted this not to gain attention or sympathy. I posted this because he is a leader and yet he chose to behave that way.

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    2. To critique his actions? It's the exact same thing people say to activists when they critique the government. Puro na lang fault finding, puro na lang bashing.

      I have nothing against you nor Anton Dulce although I find Anton's actions disturbing. Di ba mas maganda kung instead of criticizing others, look at yourself first and ask: 'What could I have done to avoid this?'

      You don't have control on how other people should act or behave, but you have control on how you react to them. Why did you react to him the way you did when you could've simply walked away?

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    3. No. What he did was unbecoming of a human being. Anton was my friend. We used to talk all the time and I thought I knew him well enough. I thought somewhere along the conversation, he would snap out of it and apologize. I gave him plenty of opportunities to rethink his behavior during the argument. Instead of asking me why I kept on "fueling his anger," why not ask him why he didn't come out of this as the better person? I shouldn't be blamed for anything.

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    4. Wow. Johanna I don't know you but you did what many reasonable people would do when put in a similar situation: you stood up for yourself. If other, super sanctimoniousness and self righteous people are criticizing you for not turning the other cheek then that's their business.

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    5. I battled many people like Anton Dulce in Facebook and I say that is their typical behavior. It is not wrong to expose their behavior because they do it in public. Exposing them might be more beneficial so as to make them realize that their action is wrong.

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    6. @Allan Michael: It isn't a question of whose perspective re: Kristel's suicide is "more valid" than the other. It is a question of decency, of respect, and of courtesy. Especially considering that Dulce's comments were being made on Ms. Perez' own wall, and not some public forum.

      IMHO, your "What could I have done to avoid this?" angle is not unlike blaming rape victims for not dressing conservatively to avoid attracting unwanted attention. It is irrational, and it would do you well to stop thinking that way.

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    7. YES! Precisely. I have been waiting for someone to say this since I know personally saying it would only draw criticism.

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    8. Allan, I do not know you, but my hat's off to you.

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    9. @raggster: I understand that and as I've said earlier, his actions were uncalled for. Now as for the angle of 'What could I have done to avoid this?', I am not by any means blaming Johanna for how she acted. It was Anton who started it to begin with as we all know. Am I blaming Johanna for this mess? No. I'm merely implying what she could have done better. It's funny though that you compare my helpful advise to the blaming of rape victims in India. Now that for me is irrational. All I'm saying is what most other people would do if someone decides to troll them. Ignore. Don't feed the troll.

      What's done is done and you cannot change it. You can't change the way he acted or how he would act in the future. You don't have any control of it. What you have control of though is the way you react to these kind of things.

      Gawin ko na lang simple, may nakakita sayong lasing, inaasar ka, papatulan mo?

      If you see this as a constructive criticism on how you acted, then you'd see my point. But I'm afraid you're only seeing my posts as a critique to how you handled the situation.

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    10. @Allan - Take a step back and read your post. Here's some help:

      "I am not by any means blaming Johanna for how she acted."

      Vis-a-vis what you state three sentences later:

      "I'm merely implying what she could have done better."

      And in relation to your prior post:

      "Why did you react to him the way you did when you could've simply walked away?"

      Contradictory? Yes. The second is merely a positive restatement of what you're denying in the first, which is a contradiction of what you asked in the third quote.

      The beauty of the Internet is that people can backread and check for consistency. As in this case.

      Also, rape victims in India? Please read and comprehend first, and stop posting from the hip. Never mentioned rape victims in India. I made mention of a specific frame of mind that blames victims for the acts of a predator. Which is exactly what you're doing, despite your claims to the contrary. You call the comparison irrational? Sure, I'll admit that. I'll also admit that tikbalangs are real.

      Nice of you to compare Dulce to a drunkard. Even so, not analogous. As Johanna stated, Dulce is an acquaintance, and the argument occurred online. She had every right to assume that at some point he'd come to his senses and back off, instead of making the suicide tirade.

      So far: irrational thinking, and now false analogies. Great going.

      (And for the record: that apology? Labas sa ilong. Just made it another opportunity to push his world view as being correct above all others. Nothing more than a "Sorry, BUT..." That's not an apology, that's an excuse.)

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    11. Those three statements aren't contradictory. Read it again once you figure out what the difference is between blaming and constructive criticism is you'll eventually figure it out.

      You know how that argument went out of control? Just like this. Someone states his opinion, but another one doesn't agree with it. Now instead of an open discourse, they didn't do that because one or both of them are closed minded. It then leaded to a little bit of smack talking then eventually name calling.

      Now let's see. Pwede kitang patulan o pwede kong hayaan na lang. Tingin mo Jego ano gagawin ko? :)

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    12. You know, I can still read comments that other people wrote here even if they've already deleted them. I just thought you should try to be more careful with your words next time. We are all intelligent people here.

      That's what constructive criticism is, FYI. You made me feel bad when you explicitly told me (among other things), "What would make you feel better? Yung makabawi ka? Then that doesn't make you any better than him" but a few statements prior to that, you said, "His actions were foul and uncalled for." Constructive criticism is specifically done to not offend the person but even if you didn't mean to, I got hurt by your comments. Again, it's in the choice of words.

      Anyway, I think this debate is very healthy. If you feel that we are not getting your point, instead of asking us to reread your statements, try explaining them.

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    13. @Johanna - Sir Jim! Easily my favorite prof. Crim 1 and 2, luckily enough. Extremely flattered that you'd compare my jottings with him. =)

      @Allan: Here's the thing: you can characterize what you say however you want. That's fine. But see, I'm not criticizing how you characterize what you say. I'm criticizing the *logic* behind what you say. Two very different things.

      Now, to keep this discussion on the level of logic and reason, what you *should* have done was say, "No, that's not the logic behind it, the logic is A, B, C, etc." Instead, what you've given are:

      a. a convoluted way of claiming that I don't accept how you characterize your statements - to which we can both agree, except on the part of *why* I don't accept it, the reason of course being that I am criticizing your logic and don't really care about mere characterization.

      b. an implied accusation that I am closed minded - which I find amusing, since all I've done is analyze and break down what you're saying, to which you've responded with non sequiturs, false analogies, a "Read again and you'll get it" response (which is nothing more than a lazy rejoinder at best) and now...

      c. ...an implied threat na "Pwede kitang patulan..." LOL Really?

      Here's my advice to you, and you're free not to take it: Walk away. At this point, you're already thoroughly embarrassing yourself by making thinly veiled threats of any kind - and right after saying that Johanna's exchange with Dulce degenerated after someone "talked smack." Don't embarrass yourself any further. Especially not on someone else's blog.

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  32. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion so long as freedom of speech does not take away and tarnish someone's dignity.

    What he did was shameless, offensive, and unbecoming of a gentleman-leader. Hope he's sincere with his words of apology.

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  33. Did he just said "fat ass"? Oh wait, he's member of Anakbayan? Kaya pala.

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  34. If it were me, I'd just ignored his lamebrain comments. Ignoring a troll is the best way of going about this.

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  35. Hello, I wrote that. It was a simple note. I wasn't aware that these things have been happening and I'm sorry for what it has caused you.

    Thank you for sharing the note and spreading the sentiment of being nice and it's a shame that it provoked people to respond like this.

    I apologize for what happened.

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    1. Hello, Aya. It's so nice to finally hear from you. There's no need for you to apologize. What happened between Anton and I are beyond anyone's control except his.

      Thank you for your kind words. I do stand by your sentiment. People are failing to realize that you are not taking away from the issue by reducing the problem to an individualistic scale. In my opinion, we have here two problems that are totally different but they often get intertwined.

      One problem, which has been alive and rampaging even before the freshman's suicide is the no late payment policy and along with it several other different problems. Like I said, I entered UP in 2007 and was automatically forced to pay P 1,000 per unit. For about four or five semesters, I availed the student short-term loan program and almost failed to beat the deadline once. Other students are facing the same exact problem every semester and some don't come out as lucky as I did.

      The other problem, the one you talked about in your note, is a separate problem altogether. Your note revolved around suicide and depression, that's it. If there ever was anything political about it, it was meant to cite examples and strengthen your argument. Suicide is a big deal. It is the end result of one or several issues that the victim personally had to go through. Your note actually made me sad when you started talking about the CMC student since he was once my classmate.

      Anyway, I know you too are dealing with hate from other people who disagree with your sentiment or get the two problems intertwined but I'm proud of you for speaking your mind when you know that others will attack you for it.

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  36. Homer Simpson on the loose. I used to look up on him, sad.

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  37. Dulcebag. Ms. Perez, sana napalipas mo na 'yong mga hinanakit na naidulot sa 'yo ni Anton.

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    1. What are you talking about? My Facebook account is mine. It's my personal page that only I can manage. I solely control what can be posted and shared there.

      Ms. Pascua, I am disappointed. Even if I agreed with you, it is not the "public space" that Anton violated. He violated my person and I know for a fact that I own myself.

      I'm sorry, Ms. Pascua, but I have to disagree with you entirely. I don't even understand how someone could come up with such an argument.

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    3. I've known Anton for less than a year and haven't talked to him for about half that time. So no, I do not know his attitude.

      If ever I violated him (which is too strong a word for this case), it was because I felt attacked. It wasn't to make him feel bad about the way he looks or anything like that. I do not behave that way and have apologized to him during the argument as you can read on the thread. He should have done the same and this whole thing could have been avoided.

      I can freely delete any comment on my timeline that displeases me but as a journalist, I try to avoid doing that. I just try to tell them if they are stepping out of bounds as I did to Anton plenty of times during the argument.

      It wasn't about the personal insults that made me post this. It was the fact that he explicitly told me to commit suicide, even going so far as to suggest a weapon, way of execution and how to dispose of my own corpse. That is a very barbaric and uneducated thing to say. I mean, I can just as easily tell him those things but my moral standards and breeding say no. And he is a leader. People look up to him. He should have known better.

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  39. This is not the first time that he apologized but I hope this time he remains true to his word. I know for a fact that he physically hurt his girlfriend years back. The movement always masks his wrongdoings by saying that they are continuously "nagwawasto”. Pero pag-gobyerno ang nagkasala, “oust” or “resign” agad.

    He will do this again, I tell you. But this time he will think twice. This is women empowerment right here. =) Happy Women's Month, Ms. Perez!

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  40. I know this comment's too late (July na, mehgad!). Came across your blog while I'm doing research for a client. Anyway, just to say: You are beatiful. Don't let anyone make you believe otherwise.

    --Diana

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